Thursday, September 17, 2015

In Defense of Miley's Nudity

Miley Cyrus is a hot topic these days. Makes sense--she draws attention to herself, she behaves in a lot of controversial ways, and she's no stranger to making bold statements. She also makes a lot of people angry.

People like to mention her to me because I worked with her, whether they're strangers on the Internet or various people I interact with in my regular life. Often, they will make some negative remark about Miley, perhaps to see how I will react or expecting me to agree.

Though I support much of what Miley does, I don't endorse all of it. The biggest improvements she could stand to make involve educating herself about race, the role racism plays in society, and how she has contributed to it. She's participated in a lot of harmful cultural appropriation. The way she responded to Nicki Minaj's criticism of the VMA's choice to omit "Anaconda" from the Video of the Year lineup demonstrated ignorance and irresponsibility as a feminist. Since Miley wants to fight so hard against sexism, homophobia, and transphobia, she should add racism to that list and recognize how all of these things can overlap.

But when people bash Miley in front of me, it is never about this. It's always stuff like, "Good thing you don't dress like her!" and "You wouldn't associate with her now, right, with her waving her vag all over the place?"

This makes me so uncomfortable.

The only concern I have with this picture is, "Isn't she cold??"

First of all, buried in those statements is the implicit understanding that I'm better than Miley because of the lifestyle I've chosen. It's a backhanded way of giving me approval for not showing too much skin, staying away from drugs and parties, going to college, etc. There's nothing inherently superior about those things, though. They just reflect my personality, as Miley's behaviors and modes of self-expression reflect hers.

Unfortunately, I'm very familiar with getting this kind of attitude from people. In high school, I had an unusual group of friends. We were a bunch of misfits who didn't share much in common beyond a few interests and what people might call "troubled" emotional lives. I was the academic kid in the group, the one who liked to read, cared about her grades, and planned on college.

Every so often, an adult, such as a teacher or another student's parent, would say to me, "Wait, you're friends with them? But...you're so smart/put-together/pleasant!"

If they thought I was put-together, well, I'm glad the ruse was working. But how was I supposed to react to this? People decades older than me who I often admired fueled my compliments by stomping all over my friends first. I had real reasons to care about my friends. I didn't view them as being beneath me or undeserving of my attention, as others seemed to think I should. I just viewed them as different. So these comments made me feel gross.

I feel similarly sick when people speak to me about Miley in this way, like I narrowly avoided her satanic influence or something. Here's another thing, though: it's not just that I dislike people insulting someone I used to work with. I also actively support much of Miley's exploits. Yes, including the way she parades around the world half-naked.

"Don't worry, Miley, I'll distract the haters with my questionable hairstyle."

It's easy to feel like people in our culture are terrified of naked human bodies, especially what many people think of as "female" bodies (bodies with breasts and/or vaginas aren't inherently female, since people who identify as male or nonbinary can have breasts and/or vaginas, too). A lot of the time, they automatically equate bodies with sex, and sex with indecency/sin/teenage pregnancy/take your pick. When they see a naked body, they shield their eyes. They condemn the naked body, this thing that everyone has, as inappropriate. Sometimes something to be ashamed of.

My question is, why? The only reason I can see for covering your eyes around a naked person is if they've asked you to look away because they're not comfortable with you seeing their body (which should always be honored). But if they're letting it all hang out there on purpose, who cares? Treat them like you would any clothed person. If you can wrap your mind around that, it becomes so much less awkward and no longer taboo.

When traveling in England earlier this year, I witnessed about fifty naked people on bicycles zooming down the streets of Canterbury. My first impulse was to avert my eyes, like some others were doing, but instead, I reminded myself that they were just bodies. Nothing to be afraid of. So I watched them on purpose. The more I looked at their bodies, the more normal they seemed. It legitimately didn't bother me that I was surrounded by all these naked people. It was awesome.

I feel like Miley is challenging this social norm, and I think she's doing it on purpose. She knows how weird people get around nudity and she's decided it's bullshit. I loved watching her on Jimmy Kimmel recently because while she's trying to continue with the show, Kimmel can't get over how much of her breasts are showing. He comes off as childish. She just treats her exposed breasts like a normal thing, which is what they should be.

I scrolled past this picture earlier and found it no more offensive than someone's beach selfie.

This means a lot to me personally because of how many years I spent ashamed of my body. Once puberty hit, I hid myself in long pants and oversized sweaters because I didn't like how I looked. I wasn't comfortable in my skin, and I specifically hated my arms, stomach, and thighs. Skirts, shorts, and dresses were out of the question unless I wore tights and a jacket. For visits to the beach, I donned a one-piece bathing suit that I quickly covered with a T-shirt and shorts. I was damn stubborn about it, too. I lived in Southern California, for crying out loud, and I always refused to take off my sweater, no matter how hot I was.

Women, or people perceived as women, are not helped through this process by school dress codes. My shame was encouraged by dress codes proclaiming that tank tops and skirts higher than the knee would sexually arouse my male peers and "give people the wrong idea." Not only was I uncomfortable with showing my body because of how it looked, but I also thought, "I don't want to seem like one of those types of girls. I want people to think I'm dignified. I don't want people to think I'm a slut."

Dress codes were teaching me that certain parts of my body were wrong. They were teaching me to look down on other girls who chose to show those parts of themselves, to see them as undignified, to assume that these girls didn't respect themselves. Dress codes were teaching me that as long as I was not like them, as long as I was a good girl and covered myself, people would approve of me, and I would be allowed to approve of myself.

Fast-forward to now. Around the time college started, I tried shorts without tights and dresses without jackets. Last year, I bought my first crop top, and now I own several. Every time I walk outside wearing a crop top and shorts, like I did today, I feel so empowered. I feel proud of my body and excited to show it off. That doesn't mean I'm comfortable walking around nude--I'm personally too modest for that--but I will champion and respect anyone who wants to do so. I admire people, like Miley, who can do that.

I never looked this happy in high school pictures.


So yeah, come to me with your complaints about Miley's cultural appropriation problem. I will agree with you. But please don't gripe about how naked she is and expect me to nod my head along with you. As far as I'm concerned, Miley can dress however the hell she wants. I hope we as a society eventually reach a point where the naked human body is no longer stigmatized and people aren't encouraged to be ashamed of them.

-Morgan

12 comments:

  1. Yes, yes, and yes!
    This post was very on point! I love that you began to talk about Miley, but this post wasn't really about Miley, if someone thought it was, I feel like they missed the point. Correct me if I'm wrong.
    I feel like we're taught this since we're children, I remember in elementary school being told off by teachers because of what I would wear, and they started to recommend that maybe I cover up more. I hit puberty at a young age, and I was being sexualized in fifth grade!
    They made me feel awkward and I was so embarrassed that I would wear zip up sweaters, and baggy shirts all the time.
    In college that's when I started wearing what I felt comfortable in, I felt more comfortable showing more skin, there was no one telling me off. Of course I'm not like naked, but like you said, you could just be showing "too much" and be labeled a slut.
    What is wrong with showing off whatever you want? There is nothing to be ashamed of!
    I don't know, maybe I went off on a tangent haha.
    But like I said, yes, yes, and yes to your points in this post!(:

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    1. I'm so glad it struck a chord with you! It is partially about Miley, but I did use her as a springboard to talk about other important topics, like sexism, fear of sexuality/nudity, body shaming, etc. And yes, we are absolutely taught this since the second we start elementary school. Good for you for growing into your true self in college!

      Thanks for reading and commenting!

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  2. Makes good sense. you have good writing skills. totally agree with you

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  3. I agree - we should all be much more offended by cultural appropriation than by her being scantily clad. What I liked was how you posted her instagram picture and said you found it no more offensive than a beach selfie - most people would. We see women just as naked or more but we find loop holes where all of a sudden its appropriate and okay for that woman but its not okay for Miley or for whoever's body we've decided we're offended by. It's gotta stop. Great post :) I really enjoyed reading it!

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    1. Thank you so much for reading and for your thoughts! Yeah, she's showing barely any more skin in that photo than she would if she were in a bathing suit. I especially find it hilarious that all the sideboob in the world is fine but apparently if a nipple is visible it's obscene.

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  4. Wow! I loved this!
    I actually just stumbled on to your Twitter page, and I saw this article you wrote about Miley. I love everything she does. Although, I never noticed the racism. I can see it now though. Thank you for pointing that out to me. And this was written very well! Great read. :)

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    1. So glad you enjoyed it! And I'm glad you were receptive to the ways she's contributed to racism. Nobody's perfect and everyone has growing to do. Thanks for reading and commenting!

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  6. 1000000%%%% AGREED! I think it's so important for girls to back each other up, instead of being pitted against each other. Our bodies should be celebrated, and we should be confident to express ourselves however we like, whether that's covered up or what not! And I'm so glad you mentioned the whole ordeal with Nikki Minaj. I do feel like the whole kerfuffle demonstrated how prevalent, but invisible, the struggles that women of color face in the world.

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  7. Wow, having read all of this &+ not dive into tweeting you like I did; its refreshing to see how intelligent or more so, wise you are.
    I think it wasn't her 'nudity' that got people's back up here in Ireland but more-so her action of licking hammers, twerking && positioning her body in sexual modes that doesn't seem to match up with your perception of simple respectful nudity but she seemed to be exploiting herself 'sexually' which was seen by so many young kids that don't have your wisdom so they take it up wrong.
    Which brings me to the whole Sinead O'Connor open letters to her, that were simple advise not to fall into the trap of music being promoted by sex actions. Sinead never mentions the nudity as a problem but her actions in the video Wrecking Ball.
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  8. Honestly, I've noticed that in the case of Miley, a lot of things were overblown. I don't believe nudity should be shoved in everyone's faces like it is all the time in movies and cable--but at the same time, our society as a whole has way too many issues and hangups about nudity and our bodies. No wonder women and girls are so messed up about their bodies and obsessed with how we look all the damn time---it's sickening how there is so much emphasis on looking good to the point of everything else. . People are so quick to call women and teenage girls "sluts" if they start to explore their sexuality, yet men are practically encouraged and given high-five for being sexually active on a constant basis. Just the old double standard at work there, as usual. As for Miley,she clearly did all she did mainly for the shock factor/attention and to show that's she's grown-up---nothing different from what I've seen a lot of former child actresses (or actors) do.And, yeah, she definitely has a blind spot when it comes to cultural appropriation and racism, but at least she sounds like she's open to learning--she's still young,anyway. She can really sing, I'll give her that----I used to watch Hannah Montana, but I always liked The Suite Life and That's So Raven more (didn't know the author of this blog was in it.)

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